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Saturday, October 3, 2009

Bedtime

From birth until now, I have been the one accompanying Elyssa to sleep every night. (with the exception of a few nights when I was away) It started like that cos I was the one breast feeding her to sleep. Then it became our nightly routine. BIG MISTAKE!

Nowadays, she doesn't even let her daddy pat her to sleep. If she's in a bad mood, she'll cry and push his hand angrily away. If she's in a good mood, she'll say "bye bye" and "night night" to daddy. (ha hahh..... that's the "diplomatic" way of saying "get out daddy!")

This is worrying indeed as I'll be away in US for two weeks in November. So our current target is to reduce her reliance on me during bedtime. It has been about 2 weeks of trying, and we have failed miserably so far. The first night was ok cos we went out till late and she was pretty exhausted. The second night, she starting screaming once she finished her milk bottle. After more than half and hour of screaming on top of her voice, I couldn't stand it anymore. I went into the room and it wasn't a pretty sight - tears streaming down her face, hair all wet due to the exertion from screaming, goo coming out from her nose etc. *sigh*. Third night, hubby decided to take carry her while he took a walk outside. She fell asleep on his shoulders but starting the screaming routine the moment she was placed back on the bed. *double sigh*. Subsequent nights have been more or less the same. Last Thursday, I could hardly focus on my night telcon with my boss cos she was screaming on top of her voice.

Anyway, latest strategy is for BOTH hubby and I to put her to bed, so she gets used to the idea of hubby being around her during bedtime.

We still have a month and a half before my trip, so we hopefully she'll be ok by then. Worst case scenario - she will eventually exhaust herself with the screaming anyway, say after 1 hour? 2 hours? Poor girl :(

If only night time with daddy is as easy as morning nap time with daddy -

8 comments:

MayChing said...

starting with both of you together is a good strategy. i remember reading a book which said you can slowly remove yourself night by night. first sit by the bed, then by the door, then out of the door! and the time you spend sitting with her also should get shorter and shorter. good luck!

Mommy to Chumsy said...

oh dear, poor girl and poor daddy & mommy too. hope she'll be ok with daddy soon. *sigh*...Ashley still wants me every night and we hv never been apart :(

Irene said...

aiyooo, poor thing. but to console u, my william has also become so fussy and reliant on me at nite now. those days he will still cry but after a while (like 10minutes) he will gv in and let hubby put him to sleep. now... he will battle him with his tears and cries.

LittleLamb said...

one strategy i read n used is leave her 1 min at one time. today 1 min. if succeed, tomorrow 2 mins..and up to 9 mins only. leave the room in the condition u want.. ie: all dark out or u want to leave some lights. if u leave her for 1 min and failed, repeat the 1 min for the next day.

Mummy Gwen said...

Oh my..it's definitely not easy..she is too young to understand Mummy need to go away for awhile. I wish you success and keep on trying.

Irene said...

hmmm... hope she will be ok with daddy putting her to sleeping lor. so by you both doing it together, prob will be better for now. training sikit :)

slavemom said...

Hopefully ur 'training' will prep her when the time comes. I think it'll be different when u're not in the hse. Maybe if she realises that ONLY daddy's ard, she won't 'reject' him.

the little prince said...

Is not easy to train her to sleep with her dad!!..May be one or two night go out for dinner n let her spend some time with granny...

Good luck!